part one: mysteries of the life cycle
1. *madness and method* ............... 2
_is there life after youth?_
2. *predictable crises of adulthood* ... 29
_two couples, two generations — the developmental ladder_

part two: pulling up roots
3. *breast to breakaway* ................. 48
_our merger and seeker selves — the inner custodian — breaking away from the inner custodian — a first solo flight_
4. *playing it to the bust* ............. 62
5. *“if i’m late, start the crisis without me”* ... 80
_seeking an idea to believe in — which model, hero, or heroine to copy? — “what am i going to do with my life?”_
6. *the urge to merge* ..................... 92
_all you need is love — the piggyback principle — jailbreak marriage — openings — the complete-me child — compulsory graffiti — the college woman — finding my “true self”_
7. *beginnings of the couple puzzle* ... 106

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